Thriving Mommy Story #3

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Sharing today an amazing guest blogger, and a Thriving home school mom of 3!  She shares Mommy and Me and Everything Inbetween over at homeschoolcrafters.com

SAHMBEING A SAHM: IS IT ENOUGH?!

Before kids I was climbing the corporate ladder. I was in my early 20’s and already making as much money as my parents in a managerial position. I had worked hard in the property management industry working my way from a leasing consultant all the way up to a Business Manager, managing a staff of over 20 people.

Being the youngest child in my family, I had never been around kids growing up. I knew I wanted kids of my own, but I didn’t know how I’d be as a mom or how kids would play a role in my current life. I naively thought I’d take a few months off of work, get a nanny or have my child go to a nursery when I went back to work to pursue my ambitious career.

But that all changed the moment I held my daughter for the first time. I was in love…Honestly, truly, unselfishly in love. I cherished the first three months of my maternity leave, dreading the day that I had to return back to work. It sent me in waves of panic, thinking about leaving my daughter for 8 hours (despite being able to leave her with my husband).

When the time came and I did have to return to work, I was able to last all of 1 month before I quit. I needed to be at home with my baby. The career world no longer held any appeal to me. I no longer was eager to seek a promotion, earn a bigger bonus, have my name recognized for a job well done.

Nope, I just wanted to be able to hold my baby when she needed me or when I needed her. I wanted to be the one to experience her FIRSTS. That was the career I wanted….in fact I know it was the only job I was meant for.

But being an ambitious type of person, I had this mindset that staying at home and being a housewife and mom was not enough. I should still be doing more (I think back at those thoughts and laugh)…being both of those is more than enough work. It was almost like I was embarrassed that I wasn’t accomplishing more. When people asked what I did, I felt lacking when I replied, “Oh, I’m a stay at home mom”.

So, I went back to school to finish my degree. I took online courses so I didn’t have to be away from my daughter. At least now I could tell people, “I stay at home, but I’m getting my BS currently”. It was like I needed to justify that I was doing more than just playing and teaching my daughter, keeping a house, caring for a family.

I graduated and had another baby. I loved being home with my young daughters. Having two was definitely more work and challenging than just one. By the time my youngest was 5 and was off to kindergarten, I felt a huge hole. What do I do with my time? I started exercising with friends, reading more…but I still wasn’t satisfied.

I decided to get a job again. I needed something that made me feel productive while my kids were away. Having a house so full of laughter and sounds, became melancholy when it was quiet. I went back to work at a great job and after a few months, my husband, daughters and I discussed and decided we all wanted to have a baby in the house once again.

This decision sent me over the moon. I was thrilled. I had wanted a third child for a few years, but my husband was the one who had always been against the idea. But he changed his mind and we were blessed to quickly get pregnant.

A lot changed during that pregnancy. It was a semi-high risk pregnancy and I was put on bed rest, and decided to quit my job. During those 5 months I was at home, while my kids were at school. I filled my empty time with reading and researching about homeschooling.

I knew there was one thing missing in our home during the day and that was my daughters. It was like the feeling I had all those years ago when I went back to work, but this time my kids were the ones gone from the house all day. I wanted to be the one to teach them and watch them grow and learn. I wanted to see new concepts “click” in their heads and see the look of joy when they accomplished a new skill. Why should anyone else get the privilege of experiencing those new FIRSTS.

I have been homeschooling now for 1 year and a half. My daughters love learning at home and it is a lifestyle that works for our family. My life is so full beyond belief and I’m so content being able to “work” as a mom, wife, teacher. The only ladder I now want to climb is the one at the park chasing after my children.
Bio Pic (2) Elizabeth is the creator of the blogsite Mommy and Me and Everything Inbetween (www.homeschoolcrafters.com).  She is a homeschooling mom of 3 lovely daughters, ages 9, 7 and 1.  Between spending time with her family, taking her kids to their extracurricular activities and going to church, she enjoys reading historical fiction, nutrition books and art projects.

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Featured Post on The Triplet Farm

I was featured as a guest blogger on The Triplet Farm 3 Ways to thrive in the chaos of motherhood.  I am honored to share this post to show mommy’s how making a choice of finding the joy and cherishing the moments of the chaos and letting go of the expectations that we hold ourselves too.

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As a mommy of 4 kiddos, and thriving in motherhood I have found these 3 simple ways to be both amazing and fantastic to impossible and frustrating at the same time.  But I make a choice daily to thrive in motherhood and I do it with these 3 tips.

  1.  Let’s Be Real: Realistic Expectations  How many times have you set yourself up with a to-do list for the day this is 2 miles long let alone it being humanly possible to complete, and with kids?  I am a recovering 2 mile long list mommy, I get it!  When I started to look at it realistically, it lifted a tremendous weight off my shoulders.  I am not kidding I felt alive again.  (oh the early day’s of motherhood).  What I also find the most crushing, is that you have an exact way of how you want it to turn out (control), I felt like I had to control every part of how it would be, how it would look, and the perfect way.  But the truth is you have to let go of the expectation of how it should be and enjoy how it is (whew another weight lifted).  Is this possible for mommy’s to do?  Yes, sit down and get real with yourself schedule and plan if you have to because if that is what you need to do to feel accomplished do it!  You also need to identify what works for you and your family.  Think about the patterns and how things really happen,  when you have the time to get the things done that you want or need to accomplish.  And at the end of the day, let it go.  Tomorrow is a fresh start!  The laundry will still be there I Promise!

2.  Mommy’s Positive Mindset  Positive Mindset seriously, yes seriously you can create a positive mommy mindset when you choose too!  Nurturing your positive mindset is as important as nourishing your body, and nurturing your soul.  It to is a choice!  The best part of this is your positivity and strength as mommy is creating lasting memories that they will love and cherish forever.  Those moments that are not so great are also nurturing them and showing them that you are human and that they to will make mistakes, it teaches them to rise from them and keep thriving.

3.  Embracing the Chaos  Hold it closely and cherish it daily, because the chaos of motherhood will fly by before you know it they will be discovering themselves.  Embracing the chaos unlocks the possibility of joy, creates a space to see “cherished moments” in the midst of the chaos.  Seeing the little things that are so small but so important.  Knowing that you can find joy in the chaos is a relief in it’s own.  Discovery of what truly matters to you and your family is an amazing thing!

“I truly believe that all moms can thrive in motherhood!”

Sharon Renth of The Mommy Mindset is passionate about helping mommy thrive with joy, living their life’s purpose, and believing that mommy you are enough!  As a Mommy mindset coach, her mission is to help mommy’s make the connection to joy, the desires of their hearts, and nurturing the mommy mind.  While creating balance and quality time with your family now and in the moment!

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I encourage you to check out The Triplet Farm!  It’s a beautiful website full of Love, Laughter, & Chaos of raising triplet’s!

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#Cup of Love Valentine’s Giveaway! $25 Barnes & Noble eGift Card!

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Thriving Mommy Story #2

Welcome

I am honored to present to you today an amazing guest blogger, and Thriving Mommy of Triplets!  She is sharing a very heartfelt moment of motherhood!  She shares her love, laughter, & chaos over on her blog The Triplet Farm.

Angela is the mother of almost 3-year-old BGG triplets Jase, Henley, and Sadie. She and her husband raise their family in a small town in Central Illinois (she grew up in Southern Illinois) that she has grown to love. Angela spends her days loving and sometimes loathing the experience of raising triplets. She will tell you that her life is chaotic and that she often takes it for granted, but at the end of the day she thanks God for all he has given her.

Angela started blogging several years ago before she had children and unfortunately stopped when she became pregnant. She wanted to begin again once the babies were born, but quickly found out that her time was not her own. Angela is just over 6 months back into the blogging world and is loving every minute of it. You can read all about the tears and tantrums and especially all love and laughter that comes with raising multiples on her blog at http://thetripletfarm.com.

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THRIVING AS A MOMMY OF TRIPLETS

Thrive. It’s a word I heard quite often while my triplets were in the NICU. Failure to thrive are the words that send me back into panic mode. Luckily, my babies not only survived, they thrived. And so did I. This is my story on how I am thriving as mommy of triplets.

I was 30 and newly married when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized that for a college educated woman I was working a job that, for lack of a better word, was beneath me. Those three words, failure to thrive, described me. I was going nowhere fast. Not moving up and not happy with my career. So, I got a new job. Two years later I was still failing to thrive. By then, not only was I not succeeding in my new career, I felt as I was failing as a woman. We had tried to get pregnant for more than 2 years and nothing was happening. We sought help and less than a year later we were blessed with 3 oh so tiny babies. Life was good. And I finally became what I had wanted to be for what seems like my entire life – a mother. Little did I know that those three words would soon describe me once again.

I cannot even describe to you what life is like with (by the time they were all home) 4 month old triplets. It’s exhausting. It’s emotional. It’s not for the weak. My babies struggled in the NICU, but once they were home they flourished. They grew, and grew, and grew. But I failed to thrive. Sure, I was happy. But I was also sad. And I was tired. I wasn’t the woman who I once was. Their first year is very much a blur to me. I was just trying to survive not thrive.

It’s been more than 2 1/2 years since the first night I had three babies in our home. It’s been just over 6 months that I’ve finally felt like me again. The day I started The Triplet Farm blog is the day I remembered who I was. For so long I was “just a mother of triplets.” Last summer I decided that it was my time to thrive. It was my time shine. The kids were at an age where they were more independent. They could play together without me having to be in the same room. They were able to come to me if there was a problem or if they needed something. So, after assuring myself over and over that they weren’t totally dependent on me, I quietly stepped into another room and started The Triplet Farm. I starting making things and editing photos. I became a mother of triplets and a writer. I became a mother of triplets and a crafter. I became a mother of triplets and a photographer. I am thriving. Although I am still often tired and emotional, I am thriving as a mommy of triplets. I am thriving as a woman. I know that the place where I am in life right now is exactly where I am meant to be. My heart is full. My heart is happy.

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What an amazing story, I encourage all of you to follow her blog and join her to being a mommy that not only survives but thrives.  Visit back soon as there will be more thriving mommy stories and ways to “nurture your mommy mind.”  Would love to hear you thriving mommy story, contact me at sharon@themommymindset.com

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5 reasons why I will step back and let them grow!

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It is one of the most embracing moments of motherhood that I have had since the day they where born.  As a mom it is hard to step back and let them grow, but it is necessary for them to grow into the amazing human being they are.  This a very personal post for me although I feel I need to share.  After pondering over how I will do this I came up with 5 reasons of why.

  1.   She has made it to the driving age.  That’s right she will be 16 next month!  They grow so fast!  She is doing an amazing job and is learning everything she can about safety, how to be cautious, and how to and what responsibilities come with being a driver on the road.  She also is learning with a little hesitation that she will have to also be responsible for the cost it involves which means yes as hard as it is for me to type she will have to get a job and earn her own money to pay for gas, maintenance for the vehicle, and insurance.  Mommy stepping back.
  2. She has made it to middle school.  She is discovering who she is, meeting many friends.  Is very involved with her passion of dance, and will be traveling to a national competition all by her own dedication.   Mommy stepping back.
  3. She is in her last year of elementary.  She is the social butterfly of the family and she enjoys spending time on the go.  “I can do it mom”  her famous words.  Mommy stepping back.
  4. Kindergarten is in full swing and he loves it.  He is learning how to meet new friends and has learned quickly the new routine.  He also is very dedicated to his martial arts and is learning focus, and respect.  Mommy stepping back.
  5. For me, I am stepping back with caution and with boundaries in place for them.  I am learning how to be a mommy who is at the side lines, but very closely there if they need a boost.  I am learning this new stage of motherhood and embracing the moments of watching them ever so closely from a different angle.  This brings me to a new perspective and a new stage that is both new but nice.  This reminds me of when they learned to walk, and you had to stand back and let them be on the go.

How about you what stage of motherhood are you?  How have you embraced moments like this?  Leave me a comment below I would love to read your stories!

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My Thriving Mommy Story

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What is thriving?  Thriving is defined as “to grow or develop well, to prosper or to flourish.”  How do you become a thriving mommy?  Well, here is an exciting secret just thinking about a life beyond surviving puts you one step closer to thriving.

Thriving for me is when I finally listened to the whisper that has been hidden down deep inside of me to share my voice.  So as all of my children venture off to school, I have choose to share my voice with all of you here.  I have always just avoided conflict.  Have always been reactive to situations.  I have made excuses for things that have gone wrong.  I have always felt like I wasn’t good enough, or that if I spoke, what would others think of me.  I enjoy staying inside of my comfort zone.  I have always recreated the same story but did it better the next time or so I thought.  To create change you have to do something different and own the story you create and write the next chapter.  The only time that I would ever stand firm or speak my opinion was when it came to my children and the mama bear would roar.  So I am harnessing that power and bringing it to my purpose of helping other mommy’s thrive.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” ~Maya Angelou

I am listening to that whisper that I have always had deep down inside of me to share that their is something greater.  Thriving happens when you have a purpose, a dream, a desire.  When you look your fears in the face and laugh, because your purpose is more important.

My steps for thriving, that I choose daily:

  1.  Learn and discover yourself.  What are your whispers?
  2. Question those fears, thoughts, and beliefs.
  3. Create 2 list, one with what you do each day and the other with what you love to do each day, compare and find what nurtures you to thrive, and make that a priority.
  4. Surround yourself with those who support you in your desire to thrive.

Join me, I want you to thrive too!  Step out of your comfort zone, and share how you are a thriving mommy.  Would you like to share your story, contact me via email sharon@themommymindset.com

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The Mommy Mindset Camp

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Join The Mommy Mindset Camp on facebook!

The ultimate purpose of this group is to provide connection, to be seen, to be heard, and to be valued! This is a camp to learn, share stories (around our virtual camp fire), create friendships, to share ideas, strategies, and tools to create a positive mommy mindset.

The Mommy Mindset Camp is about connecting with other mommy’s on a meaningful level of significance. Because we are all connected by something greater. We are all women, and we all want to be seen be heard and valued held and supported just for being who we truly are. Not being valued for what we have done, or are doing. This group is about finding other like minded women and leaving our shoulds at the doors, and showing up just as you. And knowing you are enough.

Beyond being moms we are unique women desiring meaningful connection. With our similar Journey of Motherhood, we can come together by that connection with our experiences, strengths, and challenges. We can co-create on a deep level to align to create joy, happiness, and abundance by just being our authentic self in a powerful way.

We all have a unique gift to share!

We tend to get lost, when we become a mother. When we focus on building the best, most amazing little human beings. In the pursuit of raising our children, the hustle and bustle of sleepless nights, decision making, and responsibilities we end up abandoning our minds desires, and our personal space.

In this group there will be a Morning Inspiration and in the evening we will share our mommy wins of the day! (No win is to small!)

As our community grows we will expand the ideas!

I look forward to connecting with all of you and can’t wait to see us grow together as The Mommy Mindset Campers

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Finding yourself in you to-do list!

We all find time to make list.  Grocery list, chore charts for the kids, to-do list and many more things even in our heads we always add something.  We take the time to have downloadable lists, or write them on paper.  You get the point!  It is endless the expectation and time we spend adding thing after thing.  What if we take a few moments, take a deep breathe, and add to our list.  What would make me happy today?  or this week?  What can I do for myself today?  Add to your list and schedule the time, read a chapter in a book, take a bubble bath to relax, look at a magazine, or just sit on the couch!  I will color with my kids or dance like no one is watching with the kids!  Or when they are napping or after they go to bed.  You choose we are all unique in our own ways!  Find something that you like to do, or that makes you happy.  Create the list that includes you.  As moms, we definitely get lost in our lists of things to do’s.  Cleaning, cooking, and the never ending pile of laundry!  My idea for you this week is to start with just 5-10 minutes!  Add it to your list!

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“Your are not your to-do list.  You are not you have-tos or must-dos.  You are not your job.  Although your first waking thoughts likely focus on the needs of others and all the things you want to accomplish, you are, most important, yourself.  Take time every day to remember that-even  if it means running away from everyone and everything you love so you come back refreshed and recharged.  The world can wait.  You shouldn’t have to.”

I would to hear how you escape from your to-dos!

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3 Ways Mommy’s can enjoy the holiday too!

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Can you believe December already here?  Yes, I know this can be a very busy time.  But I would like to share with mommy’s everywhere that you can enjoy the holiday too!  Here are my 3 tips on how to thrive through the holidays:

  1.  Dump your frustration!  Find a piece of paper or a take notes on your phone what ever you have.  Get them out of your head!  This create space to relieve your mind from spinning it in your head over and continually stirring the pot of frustrations.  This also provides a way to come up with a plan of action and how you can work through the challenge.  I suggest that you do this as many times as you need to (as I know there are many during this time of year!).
  2. Sleep, Sleep, and don’t forget to sleep.  Mommy’s don’t forget to reset, a well rested mom can get so much more done!  We can handle the “kid meltdowns” even the public ones with more tools if we get out rest.  We can cook, clean, prepare, and shop more effectively if we get our much needed sleep!
  3. Allow your Mommy self to enjoy the moment too!  You deserve it!  Bring out your child like dreams and desires.  Often we get caught in how it “should be” or how it “should look” which creates a lot of stress.  Enjoy the memories we are creating with our families, mommy’s need to be happy too!

Hope you have a joyful Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

I would love to hear how you thrive through the holidays!

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